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Why you shouldn’t teach your kids to respect their elders

Many sayings and traditions have stood the test of time, one that stood out from my childhood is that you must “respect your elders”.

Now, I’m not saying this a bad idea to drill into kids, but all I’m saying is…isn’t it a bit dated?

Gone are the days when children were seen but not heard and we all know how disciplining children has changed over the years.

Once upon a time, nobody would bat an eyelid at you giving your child a clip round the ear in public, but times have changed and now there’s a wider knowledge base and support network for disciplining children.

I’m not saying parents, grandparents, teachers or any authoritative adult in a child’s life shouldn’t be respected and listened to.

I’m not even saying that kids shouldn’t look up to their elders, these are the people they are modelling themselves on, all I’m saying is…

Shouldn’t we teach kids to “respect…everybody”

Isn’t it wiser to broaden the spectrum of who our children are taught to respect?

Shouldn’t parents have respect for their children?

Think about it….

We are teaching them how to be a person after all, we’re also teaching them what is acceptable and what isn’t?

If it is OK for an older person to be rude to a younger person, aren’t we just teaching our kids to accept abuse?

I know the saying doesn’t necessarily say that elders will be rude, it’s more of a way just to steer youngsters in the right direction, but I feel in a day and age where mutual respect is sort of given, doesn’t it make more sense that we teach our kids to have respect for each other, so there are no blurred lines?

I had the thought to write this blog post because of a situation I saw in my doctor’s waiting room last week, I was waiting to get Nicole’s immunisations and there was another lady getting her 1 year old daughter into her buggy after getting her jabs. Her daughter was obviously upset after getting FOUR injections, the poor little love, I think I’d be crying too, but to be honest I didn’t really notice, she wasn’t overly screaming or drawing attention to herself. Her poor mother was trying her best to soothe her and get all their gubbins together (we all know how much baggage these little people come with). Then out of nowhere an elderly lady (at least in her eighties) pipes up and has the audacity to tell the mother she should be talking to her daughter, that she shouldn’t be ignoring her! I’m not being funny, but…

  1. Who the hell asked her?
  2. The mother was most definitely NOT ignoring her daughter
  3. We all know that kids are much better in motion and it was obvious the woman was rushing to get the heck out of dodge

Now I know this doesn’t directly relate to the saying “respect your elders” that I’ve been discussing in this blog post, but I have been thinking about that situation for about a week now and it made me think, why did this woman feel she had the right to openly and publicly judge this mother? Also why did the Mum not feel she had the right to argue back?

It’s difficult…especially with older frail people, sometimes it’s better to walk away, rather than raise the heart rate of an eighty year old, but I’m more interested to why it happened in the first place.

Obviously with people who are generations older than us, they have built into them what their parents taught them, of course they do, don’t we all? So maybe it’s not our place to change them but change the future? To prevent these situations in the future, it’s important we teach mutual respect for our children between people of all ages.

I know, I know….the world of parenting isn’t black and white! We all break our own rules sometimes and there are always things we wished we had done differently, but there’s nothing wrong with putting ideas in our kids heads about what they should accept and how they should treat other people. Plus we all know not everyone teaches their children to be respectful, but that doesn’t mean we can’t teach our children to politely respect other people even if that means people they don’t like there’s a polite way to ignore someone than openly flashing evil stares to their primary school nemesis.

I’ve rambled on for a while now over just a little thought, but it’s one that’s been on my mind for a while, instead of ONLY respecting our elders, let’s respect EVERYBODY.

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Combogesic | Double Action Pain Relief | A Review

If you’re like me and not a huge fan of taking tablets, but want effective pain relief…look no further!

Combogesic is a new pain killer that combines both Paracetemol and Ibuprofen for faster double action pain relief, therefore your pain is resolved quicker and you have less tablets to take!

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I don’t have an “issue” per say with taking tablets, but I like to consume as few tablets as possible. So Combogesic are perfect, plus who doesn’t want their pain resolved sooner? I know there are people out there who have a fear or anxiety associated with taking tablets, I feel Combogesic would be perfectly suited to those people as they are slimmer designed, therefore easier to swallow and as I’ve said before it reduces the amount of tablets you need to take.

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They are for short term use, last week I had a tension headache which had a rapid onset and progressed very quickly as they tend to, I don’t get them very often but when I do they are extremely painful. I took two Combogesic and within 20 minutes I felt it start to ease and my headache had completely gone within 30 minutes.

I also suffer quite badly with period pain, especially since my second Cesarean, I tend to get a “pain” in my scar, it’s more of discomfort, but still unpleasant. I’ve seen my doctor about it previously and he just recommended over the counter painkillers for when I’m on my period, during my most recent period I took Combogesic and I was able to get on with my day better, being pain free and not having to worry about taking more painkillers a couple of hours later, because Combogesic covered me for 6 hours!

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Combogesic is available in the following pharmacies, I got mine at my local Boots:

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To see my Vlog review of Combogesic just click the link below:

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Baby First Grooming Kit| Smilehome Amazon| A Review

Making sure you have everything in place for your little one’s imminent arrival is crucial, clothes, moses basket, nappies etc. It is all important to have handy from the minute your little one comes home, as is a grooming kit.

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Smilehome have created this handy kit for your little ones care needs, it’s perfect to have ready for your baby or to give to someone as a gift!

It’s a really classic set, it has all the essentials you need with a sleek modern design, in the kit you get:

Soft baby hairbrush

Baby comb

Thermometer

Nail Clippers

Nail Scissors

Nasal Aspirator

Cleaning Tweezers

Feeder Dropper

It comes in a beautiful box which is great to store the pieces in when you aren’t using them and again if you were to give this grooming kit as a gift the box is beautifully designed and shipped very quickly.

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Plus the pieces themselves have a sleek design and are made from safe silicone & plastic materials.

This is the perfect gift for a newborn or at a baby shower, or even just a nice essentials kit to buy for your new arrival.

Click here to check it out on Amazon.

To get a closer look, check out my video review on YouTube:

Smilehome Baby Grooming Kit Vlog Review

 

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Freshlook Colourblend Lenses: Contactlenses.co.uk | A Review

A Review:

Freshlook Colourblend Contact Lenses by Contactlenses.co.uk

We live in a generation where you have the tools at your finger tips to try a different look daily, hairstyles, tan,make-up, clothes etc. Not to mention cosmetic surgery, we can basically change anything about ourselves to try a “different look” but what about our eye colour?

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When I was kid I remember envying people with big brown eyes and wondering what I’d look like with different coloured eyes, but what can you do? You’re stuck with the eye colour you have, not that I mind my eyes, I LOVE having blue eyes but it would be nice to mix it up a bit, well now you can!

In the past few years, I’ve noticed more people wearing contact lenses that change the colour of their eyes, some actually require contact lenses for their vision, but others just want to change their eye colour, I fall into the category that don’t actually require contact lenses but want to try out a different look.

Contactlenses.co.uk stock of 4 million contact lenses, so it’s fair to say they have a wide range of options available.

I was lucky enough to be sent Freshlook Colourblend Contact Lenses in the Colour VIOLET

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This was my first time EVER wearing contact lenses before so I was pretty nervous, I even watched a few tutorial videos on YouTube! I struggled at first, but it didn’t take long to pick up the niche of putting them in, if you are a first timer like me, here are some tips to putting them in (to the everyday user these might be obvious but for newbies this could be useful):

  • Take of the make-up! Yes they’ll look fab with your eye make up on but trying to put them on for the first time, with a truck load of mascara on will only end in tears….and Panda eyes.

  • Get a mirror! You need to be able to see what you are doing, if you have a mirror with a magnified side that would be even better!

  • Take it slow! Trying to put a lens in is surprisingly frustrating, at some points I wasn’t sure if my eye was watering from me prodding it so much or I was just crying from pure frustration.

Other than my five minutes of frustration with being new to contact lenses, I had absolutely no issues.

Contactlenses.co.uk sent them to me promptly and they came packaged safely in a very vibrant and well designed box. Plus I received a lens case and a bottle of sensitive eyes solution.

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The lenses themselves were surprising, if I’m honest when I first looked at them, I wasn’t sure they would look much different in my eyes to my natural eye colour, because they look so lightweight and light in colour.

I was pleasantly surprised by how great and different they look to my own eye colour! The Violet is very unusual so it was quite noticeable to other people, but they also sell natural colours if you just wanted to try a different eye colour that’s more natural looking or a unique colour, contactlenses.co.uk have a whole range of options.

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I have tried the lenses everyday for a fortnight and I can say you wouldn’t know you have them in and they are easy to use, so why not give them a go?

Overall I had a positive experience receiving goods from contactlenses.co.uk, I would highly recommend them for…anyone!

I have no vision problems and used them for the cosmetic purpose of changing my eye colour, but if you have vision problems and wanted lenses of any descriptions then contactlenses.co.uk is for you too!

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PND | First Counselling Session | An Update

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about how my doctor had diagnosed me with Postnatal Depression.

I was referred for counselling and said I’d update you guys on my progress…so here it is:

I was given a call back and a telephone assessment, basically going over why I felt depressed. He also agreed I had “Perinatal Depression”, which actually covers more than just Postnatal Depression which means after birth, which is more accurate for me since my Depression first started when we lost our first baby.

We discussed my options and he thought 8 sessions of counselling would be a great starting point, at this stage the waiting list for counselling was 17 weeks! But because I fall into the “perinatal” category, I got moved up the waiting list so I was only 6 weeks away, but I actually had an appointment within 3 weeks, which was great.

I felt positive and happy to have taken the first step to help myself, which helped my mood to be lifted.

My first session nearly didn’t happen, the room was in a huge complex, hidden right in the middle around the other side of the building, so at first I went to the wrong reception. In my head this was a sign I shouldn’t go, I almost stormed off to go home, but I knew if I missed this session I’d be knocked off the list, so i fought my own mind’s negativity and although I was 5 minutes late, I found the room.

The counsellor was a lovely welcoming lady, I basically word vomited my whole life to her with all my anxieties and fears thrown in too, but she was great and didn’t make me feel silly for blurting it all out. She didn’t even need to say much, she just supported me in the decisions I was unsure about and basically told me that the way I am raising my children and living my life is OK and that I need to let go of the negative comments people make and just let them go over my head, she also thinks I’ve had a lot of trauma over the past five years of my life with losing two babies, Jack being really premature, my Dad passing away and a lot of other personal stresses that have caused me a lot of anxiety.

She thinks CBT will help me, once I’ve finished counselling. So I’m optimistic about that.

So my first counselling session went really well, I’m excited about my next one.

For those struggling with Depression who are thinking about starting counselling, I would say even after one session I feel more positive, it’s amazing the feeling that just making a forward step with supporting your own mental health can do.

There are so many options to help and support you if you feel depressed, you just need to take that step forward and the support is there, it isn’t a one size fits all and everyone’s story is different, but one thing that is true for everyone is that you should NEVER keep your feelings to yourself if you are feeling Depressed.

I’m keeping you guys updated to show how getting support for PND does work!

Here are some support links:

Samaritans

MIND

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If you are in Lancashire like me this is who I get my counselling through:

Minds Matter

I will continue to keep you guys updated on my progress and if anyone wants to get in touch, share their success story or just to talk please comment or get in touch.

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Becoming a NICU mum

Becoming a NICU mum

This isn’t how it was supposed to pan-out.

We all anticipate how our babies will arrive and try to envisage that spectacular moment our little creation enters the world.

Then fate cruelly interjects and suddenly the dream bubble that’s been floating above your head for the past few months is torn in two and is replaced with the sound of beeping machines, the hustle and bustle of a busy ward and the reality of this tiny fragile human-being with wires and tubes protruding ever limb on their helpless little bodies.

It’s a massive shock to the system and you’re expected to just take it in your stride. As if becoming a mum for the first time or adding to your brood isn’t enough to take on board, now there’s the fear that this little part of you, won’t make it.

When they are born, that’s the helpless moment you lose the ability to protect your little one safely inside your body, the moment they leave your body, the responsibility then leaves you and is passed on to the nurses and doctors, which although we are grateful for, is heartbreaking, because all we want to do is cuddle our little bundles of joy and keep them safe in mummy’s arms.

With a “normal delivery” mum’s are so excited to finally meet their new addition, but during premature birth we have the fear of the unknown, knowing your baby may not breathe or be born with long-term health complications.

You would be judged for saying this isn’t what you wanted to happen, but I can’t quite understand why someone would pass judgement on the feelings of something they have no understanding of.

We don’t feel disappointment and sadness because this premature baby has become an inconvenience to our lives, quite the opposite.

It’s sadness for our baby and disappointment that this person we love more than anything else on the planet it having to struggle through the early days, weeks, months and sometimes even years of their life.

We call them fighters, because they are.

We call them miracles, because they are.

We wouldn’t change them because we love them in a specially particular way after being astounded by their strength….

But would we, if we had the choice wish they had never had to go through this?

Of course we would!

I look at Jack now, my waters went with him at 25+5 weeks and he was born at 29+5 weeks, spending 40 days in NICU and I’m still astounded by what he went through as a 3.5lb preemie. But the heartbreak of seeing my tiny baby squeal in pain with needle after needle, knowing his body couldn’t provide what he needed to keep him alive breaks my heart and I’d of taken it all for him if I could.

Nobody hopes to become a NICU mum, but once you are one, all you do is hope.

Hope that your little one makes it through the fight for their life.

I’m just one of the lucky ones my fighter made it through unscathed.

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Contactlenses.co.uk | Freshlook Colourblend | Review

I just LOVE coloured contact lenses!

I’ve always wondered what I’d look like with different coloured eyes and now it’s easy to find out!

Contactlenses.co.uk sell a whole range of different contact lenses and I’ve been sent these Freshlook Colourblend Contact Lenses to try and they are the colour VIOLET!

Which I’m very excited about!

So I’ve done an introductory video on my Vlog and will be posting a full review on here and my YouTube Channel when I’ve tried them for a fortnight.

So far I can say they come in great packaging and are delivered super fast! You get a big bottle of solution, lens case and the lenses themselves plus some great instructions. They are safely and well packaged, plus the most important thing…they look amazing!

Plus there is an entire range of colours from your everyday blues, greens and browns to extraordinary colours such as Amethyst and Misty Grey! There’s tonnes more to choose from, plus the range of contact lenses themselves vary massively!

I would highly recommend contactlenses.co.uk not only for the vast range of contact lenses they have but also for the great service, fast delivery and great quality packaging, plus of course the great product!

Check out the before and after:

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Plus here’s the video of my first try:

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