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Baby First Grooming Kit| Smilehome Amazon| A Review

Making sure you have everything in place for your little one’s imminent arrival is crucial, clothes, moses basket, nappies etc. It is all important to have handy from the minute your little one comes home, as is a grooming kit.

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Smilehome have created this handy kit for your little ones care needs, it’s perfect to have ready for your baby or to give to someone as a gift!

It’s a really classic set, it has all the essentials you need with a sleek modern design, in the kit you get:

Soft baby hairbrush

Baby comb

Thermometer

Nail Clippers

Nail Scissors

Nasal Aspirator

Cleaning Tweezers

Feeder Dropper

It comes in a beautiful box which is great to store the pieces in when you aren’t using them and again if you were to give this grooming kit as a gift the box is beautifully designed and shipped very quickly.

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Plus the pieces themselves have a sleek design and are made from safe silicone & plastic materials.

This is the perfect gift for a newborn or at a baby shower, or even just a nice essentials kit to buy for your new arrival.

Click here to check it out on Amazon.

To get a closer look, check out my video review on YouTube:

Smilehome Baby Grooming Kit Vlog Review

 

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Freshlook Colourblend Lenses: Contactlenses.co.uk | A Review

A Review:

Freshlook Colourblend Contact Lenses by Contactlenses.co.uk

We live in a generation where you have the tools at your finger tips to try a different look daily, hairstyles, tan,make-up, clothes etc. Not to mention cosmetic surgery, we can basically change anything about ourselves to try a “different look” but what about our eye colour?

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When I was kid I remember envying people with big brown eyes and wondering what I’d look like with different coloured eyes, but what can you do? You’re stuck with the eye colour you have, not that I mind my eyes, I LOVE having blue eyes but it would be nice to mix it up a bit, well now you can!

In the past few years, I’ve noticed more people wearing contact lenses that change the colour of their eyes, some actually require contact lenses for their vision, but others just want to change their eye colour, I fall into the category that don’t actually require contact lenses but want to try out a different look.

Contactlenses.co.uk stock of 4 million contact lenses, so it’s fair to say they have a wide range of options available.

I was lucky enough to be sent Freshlook Colourblend Contact Lenses in the Colour VIOLET

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This was my first time EVER wearing contact lenses before so I was pretty nervous, I even watched a few tutorial videos on YouTube! I struggled at first, but it didn’t take long to pick up the niche of putting them in, if you are a first timer like me, here are some tips to putting them in (to the everyday user these might be obvious but for newbies this could be useful):

  • Take of the make-up! Yes they’ll look fab with your eye make up on but trying to put them on for the first time, with a truck load of mascara on will only end in tears….and Panda eyes.

  • Get a mirror! You need to be able to see what you are doing, if you have a mirror with a magnified side that would be even better!

  • Take it slow! Trying to put a lens in is surprisingly frustrating, at some points I wasn’t sure if my eye was watering from me prodding it so much or I was just crying from pure frustration.

Other than my five minutes of frustration with being new to contact lenses, I had absolutely no issues.

Contactlenses.co.uk sent them to me promptly and they came packaged safely in a very vibrant and well designed box. Plus I received a lens case and a bottle of sensitive eyes solution.

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The lenses themselves were surprising, if I’m honest when I first looked at them, I wasn’t sure they would look much different in my eyes to my natural eye colour, because they look so lightweight and light in colour.

I was pleasantly surprised by how great and different they look to my own eye colour! The Violet is very unusual so it was quite noticeable to other people, but they also sell natural colours if you just wanted to try a different eye colour that’s more natural looking or a unique colour, contactlenses.co.uk have a whole range of options.

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I have tried the lenses everyday for a fortnight and I can say you wouldn’t know you have them in and they are easy to use, so why not give them a go?

Overall I had a positive experience receiving goods from contactlenses.co.uk, I would highly recommend them for…anyone!

I have no vision problems and used them for the cosmetic purpose of changing my eye colour, but if you have vision problems and wanted lenses of any descriptions then contactlenses.co.uk is for you too!

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PND | First Counselling Session | An Update

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about how my doctor had diagnosed me with Postnatal Depression.

I was referred for counselling and said I’d update you guys on my progress…so here it is:

I was given a call back and a telephone assessment, basically going over why I felt depressed. He also agreed I had “Perinatal Depression”, which actually covers more than just Postnatal Depression which means after birth, which is more accurate for me since my Depression first started when we lost our first baby.

We discussed my options and he thought 8 sessions of counselling would be a great starting point, at this stage the waiting list for counselling was 17 weeks! But because I fall into the “perinatal” category, I got moved up the waiting list so I was only 6 weeks away, but I actually had an appointment within 3 weeks, which was great.

I felt positive and happy to have taken the first step to help myself, which helped my mood to be lifted.

My first session nearly didn’t happen, the room was in a huge complex, hidden right in the middle around the other side of the building, so at first I went to the wrong reception. In my head this was a sign I shouldn’t go, I almost stormed off to go home, but I knew if I missed this session I’d be knocked off the list, so i fought my own mind’s negativity and although I was 5 minutes late, I found the room.

The counsellor was a lovely welcoming lady, I basically word vomited my whole life to her with all my anxieties and fears thrown in too, but she was great and didn’t make me feel silly for blurting it all out. She didn’t even need to say much, she just supported me in the decisions I was unsure about and basically told me that the way I am raising my children and living my life is OK and that I need to let go of the negative comments people make and just let them go over my head, she also thinks I’ve had a lot of trauma over the past five years of my life with losing two babies, Jack being really premature, my Dad passing away and a lot of other personal stresses that have caused me a lot of anxiety.

She thinks CBT will help me, once I’ve finished counselling. So I’m optimistic about that.

So my first counselling session went really well, I’m excited about my next one.

For those struggling with Depression who are thinking about starting counselling, I would say even after one session I feel more positive, it’s amazing the feeling that just making a forward step with supporting your own mental health can do.

There are so many options to help and support you if you feel depressed, you just need to take that step forward and the support is there, it isn’t a one size fits all and everyone’s story is different, but one thing that is true for everyone is that you should NEVER keep your feelings to yourself if you are feeling Depressed.

I’m keeping you guys updated to show how getting support for PND does work!

Here are some support links:

Samaritans

MIND

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If you are in Lancashire like me this is who I get my counselling through:

Minds Matter

I will continue to keep you guys updated on my progress and if anyone wants to get in touch, share their success story or just to talk please comment or get in touch.

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Becoming a NICU mum

Becoming a NICU mum

This isn’t how it was supposed to pan-out.

We all anticipate how our babies will arrive and try to envisage that spectacular moment our little creation enters the world.

Then fate cruelly interjects and suddenly the dream bubble that’s been floating above your head for the past few months is torn in two and is replaced with the sound of beeping machines, the hustle and bustle of a busy ward and the reality of this tiny fragile human-being with wires and tubes protruding ever limb on their helpless little bodies.

It’s a massive shock to the system and you’re expected to just take it in your stride. As if becoming a mum for the first time or adding to your brood isn’t enough to take on board, now there’s the fear that this little part of you, won’t make it.

When they are born, that’s the helpless moment you lose the ability to protect your little one safely inside your body, the moment they leave your body, the responsibility then leaves you and is passed on to the nurses and doctors, which although we are grateful for, is heartbreaking, because all we want to do is cuddle our little bundles of joy and keep them safe in mummy’s arms.

With a “normal delivery” mum’s are so excited to finally meet their new addition, but during premature birth we have the fear of the unknown, knowing your baby may not breathe or be born with long-term health complications.

You would be judged for saying this isn’t what you wanted to happen, but I can’t quite understand why someone would pass judgement on the feelings of something they have no understanding of.

We don’t feel disappointment and sadness because this premature baby has become an inconvenience to our lives, quite the opposite.

It’s sadness for our baby and disappointment that this person we love more than anything else on the planet it having to struggle through the early days, weeks, months and sometimes even years of their life.

We call them fighters, because they are.

We call them miracles, because they are.

We wouldn’t change them because we love them in a specially particular way after being astounded by their strength….

But would we, if we had the choice wish they had never had to go through this?

Of course we would!

I look at Jack now, my waters went with him at 25+5 weeks and he was born at 29+5 weeks, spending 40 days in NICU and I’m still astounded by what he went through as a 3.5lb preemie. But the heartbreak of seeing my tiny baby squeal in pain with needle after needle, knowing his body couldn’t provide what he needed to keep him alive breaks my heart and I’d of taken it all for him if I could.

Nobody hopes to become a NICU mum, but once you are one, all you do is hope.

Hope that your little one makes it through the fight for their life.

I’m just one of the lucky ones my fighter made it through unscathed.

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When the protective Lioness roars

As mothers, we have built in “feeling sensor” it’s when we get a feeling something just isn’t quite right with our little ones.

Even if they aren’t in the same room, building, town or even the same country, no matter how old we get or how old they get, it never goes away, when there’s something amiss we just know!

I have to say, sometimes it can be a bit off, I’ll have the strongest feeling something is going to happen or something is wrong, but in reality it’s fine, but I’d say I have a 70% accuracy for knowing when my little ones need me.

So today in a play area we go to quite a lot, I got the feeling.

Jack ran off on his own, as he does and I was sat in a place I could see all parts of the play area, so I could see him at all times.

I didn’t even hear him scream, I just suddenly got this feeling he needed me.

I stood up, to look at him…Jack was walking away from this other kid who was following him and hitting him, Jack fell to the floor and this kid started kicking him!

This all happened within a few seconds, I was there by his side within this time, but it felt like a slow motion lifetime.

I felt this rage in my belly, I can’t explain, but it was as if my inner lioness was roaring, like I needed to rescue my baby cub…

OK OK, I know it wasn’t that bad, we aren’t at war and my son’s life wasn’t at risk, but he was scared and being hurt by another person, all-be-it this kid was no older than 3, definitely around Jack’s age, but still when someone is causing your child to be upset, the feeling you get as a mother is indescribable.

If it had just been a “toddler smack” I’d of probably waited to see if Jack either “toddler smacked” them back or told them off (the more likely option from Jack), but I saw the fear in my baby’s eyes and this boy wasn’t hitting like a toddler, he was using his fists to punch, this little boy was obviously used to playing rough.

So before I had a chance to compose myself, or even think about it, I found myself hunched over in the soft play area telling a strangers kid he was naughty and he shouldn’t hurt other kids.

Was it wrong of me to call another person’s child naughty? Probably…

Do I regret it? Probably not…

Should I have just pulled my child away, comforted him and left the parents to deal with whether their child should be punished? I don’t know…but I know it was my instinct to protect my child and to show him that if someone hurts you it is NOT ok.

I know if my child was that intentionally cruel and hurtful to another child, their “play time” would be over and they’d either be sitting out until their siblings finished playing or we’d be going home.

Usually, I’d wonder if I’d overreacted, to how bad a situation was. But me and every other mum in that place were sat gawking at the destructive rampage this kid was on, even after I told him he was naughty and he continued to hit and kick other children.

I have to say hats off to the mum, she brought him over, there was a bit of resistance, but she relented and got her kid to apologise.

It is embarrassing, really we’re all in the same boat, with these tiny dictators trying to show us up at every opportunity, it’s always a worry if you’re going to have to face the “judgemental, snooty mum”, well that definitely isn’t me, I have three very normal, very cute but at times extremely irritating children, I’m in no position to judge…

I mean at the end of the day, they are kids!

They push the boundaries, that could have easily been Jack making another kid cry, sometimes he shocks me with how brutal he can be to his own brother, so I’m not one to judge. All kids want to see what they can get away with and I don’t think anyone is exempt from their kid misbehaving, it’s how we deal with it that counts.

So maybe I should have waited for the mum to come over, before telling her son off, but I know if that were Jack he’d be less likely to do it ever again if a stranger were to tell him

 off, it would terrify him, so I don’t think I’d thank someone for telling my kid off, but I think having the fear that someone, especially a stranger might tell them off, would prevent future naughty moment (we can hope).

But to be honest kids are pretty unpredictable, so they’ll probably just do what the hell they like whilst making us look like terrible parents at the same time.

I’ve diverged a bit in this post, I’ve been thinking about it all day, knowing I’d write it. To be honest I was pretty upset when it happened and I was angry that my son told me “Mummy I’m too scared to go back in” but throughout writing this piece, it’s put it into perspective, that we’re all mums just trying to raise our kids into semi-descent human beings, so instead of judging the mum and her son, I need to look at the bigger picture and not let my inner mama-bear take over before thinking.

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Calling Bullsh*t On Mum Shaming

Breast might be “best” but the truth is if formula didn’t exist a lot of babies would of died and if you lined a class of children up you’d never know who had been formula fed and who had been breast fed. You don’t know if someone has struggled breast feeding or if they just preferred formula and simply it is none of your business. Also when a breastfeeding mother does it in public it’s because the baby is hungry, believe it or not we do not find our leaking, engorged breasts being sucked on until they are raw as attractive, so no it’s not to “get our boobs out” it’s to feed our hungry babies. Just be happy that the baby is getting a full tummy, that’s all that matters. I’ve done both breast and formula feeding and now they both throw the same psychopathic tantrums.

Stay at home or working parent? I’ll let you into a secret, you don’t love your child more or less whichever you do, they’ll still keep you up at night, annoy the life out of you at times and cuddling them will make you forget all your problems for that moment. Judging someone for their working circumstances just shows a lack of experience in it. Children have long survived working and stay at home parents and either way they are going to grow into teenagers that don’t want to speak to us anyway.

Losing the baby weight. The reality is you’ve just created a human who has turned your life upside down, that is accepted. It’s accepted your house will change, your routine will change, your priorities will change…this is all accepted without question, yet your body where this little person has set up camp for 9 months is expected not to change! Shaming someone for their appearance at any other time would be considered bullying, yet we’re given unrealistic expectations on the front of magazines of how celebs have their 6 pack back a week after giving birth. So many mum’s beat themselves up for not dropping the weight as soon as their baby is born, you’ve just created a mini-person, give yourself a break and look at the bigger picture, you’d give anything for your child to be happy and content in their own skin, so why not be the person they learn that from, instead of society giving them an unrealistic perception of what is “normal”.

Time alone, really once you have children then there is no time alone, even when are sat in an empty house. Your mind doesn’t switch off from the minute they are born, ever! To any non-parents reading this, it isn’t as terrifying as it sounds, but the truth is in the back of your mind there is always a little worry when you aren’t with them, but you wouldn’t have it any other way! This however, does not mean that you aren’t human and don’t need a break from time to time and also that you are important and it’s ok for you to enjoy time without them there. The general consensus seems to be it’s ok for Dad to go down the pub to wind down, but if Mum goes on a night out and let’s her hair down then she is a terrible mother. Don’t get me wrong if you’ve left 2 year old Junior home alone with only the TV to keep them company, while you’ve gone out to get wasted and woken up in a police cell, then you probably don’t deserve mother of the year. But don’t be ashamed to admit you have another name as well as mum.

The truth is we’ve all got different children, so there isn’t one way to parent and really we’re all just fluking it in different ways.

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The moment your realise your baby is a genius (as does every other mother in the world!)

First words, first steps, first eating of solid food, first solid poop! There’s a first time for everything and being a mother you get to see it all happen right in front of your eyes.

It must be the love hormone that goes into overdrive when our babies are born, because literally every mum thinks their child is the first to do all of the above and more (well maybe not all that extreme, but you will come across those mothers whose kids walked, talked and recited the alphabet backwards at 6 weeks old).

The moment you realise your child is a genius, is that hallelujah, oh my god, did they really just do that moment! Even when they’ve been clinging onto the furniture for weeks, the moment they let go and do those first few steps will at least make you well up a bit! When you tell friends and family it’s a moment you want them to scream and rejoice like you but unfortunately others don’t see the same genius-like qualities in your child they just see it as another developmental milestone.

Every parent can’t believe the tiny baby they held so tight is really growing into a little person, it’s exciting to see them grow and to help shape their personality, but it’s also devastating for some that you will never get that tiny baby moment again with that child, with every thing they can now do there are things they will never do again. Maybe this is why we get so excited and over the top about our children’s next stages, to protect ourselves from the scary truth that your baby is growing up.

But if you look at everything like you will never get back again you are missing the things you are gaining right in front of your eyes. They aren’t little for long but we already knew that, spend your time enjoying it instead of worrying how fast it is going, and remember…your baby is a genius.