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Mikey’s Progress: Portage, Speech Therapy & Nursery

When Mikey had his two year check back in October 2016, I mentioned to my health visitor I had some concerns about the fact he wasn’t speaking, making eye contact or responding to his name.

The first avenue we took was a hearing test.

A few people had mentioned he seemed deaf or that he may have hearing problems, we went for a hearing test and he passed with flying colours.

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So the next route we took was removing his dummy and limiting his TV time, which improved his focus and he started to make a few sounds, but we decided together he needs some support.

So we had three options to explore: Speech Therapy, Portage and Nursery

This was October last year and I didn’t quite feel he was ready for nursery so, I went to a Speech Therapy drop in session and my health visitor applied for Portage, which went to a panel along with other applications and it was decided Mikey would qualify for it.

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Fast forward to January 2017 he had his first appointment session of Speech Therapy and is now saying the words: Bubbles, Up, Pop, Daddy, Jack, Bot Bot and Yeah.

He now goes to nursery twice a week and runs off without saying bye, then cries when I pick him up because he wants to stay there (charming).

Plus on Tuesday he had his first Portage session.

I felt nervous and excited about his first session with the Portage worker, I didn’t really know what to expect.

I knew their aims were to improve his eye-contact, socialising and interaction, we’d discussed that in the initial meeting and I felt happy with these goals.

The session went really well, she brought along some toys that meant Mikey had to give her eye contact and she put her thumbs up and said “good looking” every time he looked at her.

I saw a great improvement even after just one session, so I’m excited that he has this weekly.

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The fact is that Mikey is extremely clever, (like scary clever) he knows what he wants and he sees the world in his own way and he lives by it.

Time and time again I keep getting asked what “they” think is “wrong with him” by people, especially because the Autism word keeps getting thrown around.

NOTHING is “wrong” with him, there is so much right with him, he’s so intelligent and if anything overly independent for his age.

Plus it’s not for “them” to decide.

Who are “they” anyway?

Professionals who don’t know him?

I’m his mother and it doesn’t matter to me what label may or may not be given to my son, because to me a label doesn’t change who he is, I love him for exactly who he is right now, his quirks, his meltdowns, the special little moments we get together.

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It isn’t for anyone else to change those things, but of course I take into consideration that he may need support and I would never hold him back from anything that can make his life easier to live, I mean celebrities pay thousands for therapies, it can’t do any harm whatsoever, so my thinking process is…why not?

I’m having these therapies put in place for him, partially because his health visitor suggested it and I completely trust her judgement, he is a very kind person, with a lot of experience and really cares for Mikey. Also my own instincts as mother tell me that although it works for him now being self-serving and not interacting with others, that it may be a struggle for him when he’s older, but there’s a good chance it won’t be.

I’d rather him have gentle therapies now to support him at a young age where he knows no different and prevent any future struggles that may happen, than waiting to see if he has to undo habits once he is in school, when it will be much harder for him because he will have more of a comprehension of the fact it is support he is getting, rather than knowing no different.

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The support he is getting has improved his interaction, eye-contact, socialising and speech in such a short space of time, I’m so proud of him and how well he is doing.

If anyone else is going through a similar journey with their child please comment, I’d love to hear from you about your experience or just to know about your little one.

I will keep you updated on his progress.

Thanks for reading!

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You’re not making a rod for your own back

Advice…

It’s a great thing, we all need advice at certain points in our life and it’s up to us if we take it or not, most people don’t give advice unless asked for it.

But there are a select few that just think their advice is needed, at all times, in all situations. They aren’t trying to give gentle suggestions, they are telling you”how it is”.

These are a special kind of people that will tell you that you are “making a rod for your own back”, they aren’t intentionally trying to offend or upset you, it’s just that one of the special characteristics these people possess is that their brain isn’t connected to their mouth, therefore what comes out of it has already done the damage before they have the ability to consider the feelings of others.

I mean don’t let your toddler sleep in your bed…ever!

If you do, you are making a rod for your own back!

You aren’t having a special moment, with this perfect little person you created, where the feeling of their arms being around you is the best feeling in the world….

No No No!

Don’t you know that doing this, is has a direct result of your child staying in your bed until the end of time.

Didn’t you consider that having your 3 year old in bed with you when they are poorly and just want mummy, is a detrimental moment that means your child will stay in your bed until they are 35!

Dummies, Christ almighty! Do not, I repeat Do not! Give your child a dummy! (If you’re american…pacifier) The special advice givers will tell you, ignore the research that’s been done that proves that dummies early on in a babies life actually greatly reduces the risk of SIDS…

No No No!

Putting that dummy in your baby’s mouth after birth, means you’ve scarred them for life and you will never be able to get it out of their mouth.

I mean, how will you feel as a parent when they are sitting their A-levels and everyone’s looking at them going all Maggie Simpson on the dummy in their mouth.

Save yourself the pain, we all know that any kid ever given a dummy, has never had it successfully removed from their mouth for good, once their in it’s like superglue!

Crying! OK this one is going to pretty obvious, because let’s face it, the special advice givers will tell you…Do not, I repeat do not, pick your child up if they cry.

I mean what sort of a parent are you!? Your child is crying! Why the hell would you try and comfort them?! Are you trying to make them emotionally unstable?! Do you want them to think that affection and cuddles are good things?!

They must must must cry it out, the best remedy I’ve heard is…crack open a large bottle of wine, crank up MTV and drown out those tears, I mean you might have made this human, it doesn’t mean you want to listen to them cry? I mean, you’re only their mother, there’s only so much you can put up with.

I’m not talking about those babies that just whine at night, I mean they woke up upset, they’re feeling poorly or just a bit sad, don’t give in to these signs of weakness, harden that baby up and leave them to cry it out.

So if you’ve read to the end of this post, I’m hoping you got my sarcasm 😜

Of course I don’t believe any of the above, but when I had my first baby, when someone told me something I believed it. It’s only as my confidence has grown with being a mother, that I’ve trusted my own instinct. That’s what I want to encourage other women to do, you are their mother, trust your instincts! There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking advice, I ask for it all the time, but if you want to do something or raise your child a certain way that is only going to benefit them, don’t worry that you’re “making a rod for your own back” or “spoiling them” just do what the hell you want and leave the haters to raise their kids in their own way

 

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Flutterbydreams Photography: My best ranked Photographer in the North West

Photographs, the perfect way to capture a perfect moment forever, these days you can capture them on your phone, devices and professional cameras are even affordable.

But like any profession, you can’t quite get it perfect if you don’t have the training, photography isn’t just about clicking a button, it’s about having a vision and being able to make those perfect moments happen and capture them at the right second.

The best way to make sure you have those memories to treasure forever is to hire the right photographer for the job.

Since Jack has been a baby, I’ve been going to the same person for our professional pictures, Danielle at Flutterbydreams.

My first photo shoot with her was actually supposed to be a pregnancy-bump shoot when I was pregnant with Jack at 30 weeks, but he was born at 29+5 so that didn’t happen!

But she came to do his newborn shoot, the day after his due date so he was 11 weeks old but only 5lbs! She came for around 09:30am in the morning when we had agreed and she stayed for around 5 hours! The photo shoot was in the comfort of our own home and she was so gentle and patient with Jack! He peed on her three times and she didn’t bat an eyelid.

As Jack was so premature I was extremely nervous about anyone handling him, but Danielle explained she had been specially trained to handle and pose newborns for photo shoots, I didn’t actually know you needed special training, but she explained to me how important it was that she had this training for Jack’s safety.

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It was obvious that she cared deeply about the babies and families she photographs, she has this great vision and wonderful ideas for poses and she made us feel completely at ease. We were her only clients that day and you could feel that she wasn’t rushing us at all, she took the time to rock Jack to sleep to get the perfect pictures.

My only regret is that after Mikey was born I didn’t get his pictures done, I always meant to get round to it, but we had literally just moved house and it was always on our list of things to do, I know that Danielle would have done a fabulous job photographing Mikey.

When we got married, there isn’t anyone else I would have gone to for the photography, Danielle was our first choice and she came along with another professional photographer Lauren and had the cheapest price of all the quotes I’d seen! She stayed from Bridal Prep all the way through to the First Dance and brought along a backdrop so we could do a photo booth. She wasn’t just a photographer on the day, she was a friend, nothing was too much to ask.

She waited until we were ready for our posed pictures and captured so many beautiful moments, you wouldn’t have even known she was there taking them, I received my photos within a month and there were over 600!! I’ve heard the biggest regret you can have on your big day is having a bad photographer, well we are so lucky we had Danielle, it isn’t just a job to her, you can tell she puts her heart and soul into getting the perfect pictures to treasure for a lifetime.

Shortly after our wedding I had our third baby Nicole and as you can imagine a selfie of the 5 of us together wasn’t easy to capture and getting a picture by anyone else just wasn’t cutting it, so we thought why not get Nicole’s baby pictures and a family portrait at the same time! I booked in with Danielle and she gave us a great price and the same as with Jack three years earlier she stayed for hours and waited patiently to get the perfect pictures.

As you can imagine getting a family picture with two toddlers and baby is near impossible, I wasn’t expecting any miracles, don’t get me wrong Danielle is a fab photographer but I knew my kids and how difficult they’d be to sit still and smile…well she proved me wrong.

She didn’t just get one but she got numerous pictures of us together all smiling and looking at the camera, the kids love her! At this time Mikey wasn’t speaking or making any eye contact and she managed to get him to come out of himself, it was amazing to see and even though I knew the shoot had gone well but I still couldn’t believe how perfect the pictures were when I saw them and all my friends with kids were amazed at how she’d managed to get a picture of us all looking at the camera and smiling.

I’ll continue going to Danielle at Flutterbydreams anytime I need a photographer in the future, I can’t recommend her enough! She’s everything you need in a Photographer:

✔ Professional

✔Qualified Photographer

✔Qualified in handling and posing newborns

✔Great with kids

✔Great prices

✔Patience and takes the time to capture perfect moments

✔Experience

✔High quality pictures

Check out the page and message Danielle for a quote: Flutterbydreams Photography

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Three poorly babies

I know Jack & Mikey aren’t technically “babies” but they are MY babies, so I have three poorly babies today.

It’s been starting for a few days but today it’s hit our household like a bacteria filled bomb, all three have sticky eyes (Yuck!), poor Jack woke up and thought he was blind! 🙈

Mikey has no comprehension of why I have to clean his eyes, he’s the hardest one to help. Jack doesn’t like having his eyes cleaned (using boiling water and cotton wool) plus eye drops, but he knows he needs them and if he just plays along it’s over a lot quicker than if he fights me, Nicole hates having her eyes cleaned (she’s too young for drops) but is too little fight back, so just gives me a guilty feeling with her bottom lip.

But Mikey, he is the strongest out of all three and hates any sort of intervention, wiping his nose, washing his hair, changing his bum…he’s not a fan of anything like that, so trying to swipe his eyes with cotton wool in one direction so I’m not rubbing it back into his eye, then putting in eye drops is near-impossible, but I managed it, I may have had to gently restrain him with my legs, but it took me no longer than a minute, whereas I could have sat there for an hour trying to reason with him but got nowhere, if you are a fan of the TV show Friends….Imagine Rachel with the eye drop, but x10!

I had plans to take the kids out to the park today or maybe even to a play area, but I’m not so well myself and really all they want to do is stay in their pyjamas and watch TV, so I’m not going to pass up the opportunity to chill with them and not spread this cold/virus/eye infection whatever you want to call it, to the outside world.

Kids perk up pretty quickly so I’m hoping they’ll be OK for nursery and a play date tomorrow, there’s really no way to tell until the morning with kids, they are pretty unpredictable. I know they’ll be absolutely gutted to miss out but I suppose it’s my job to decide what is best and weigh up the pros and cons, they’ve been having their eye drops for two days now, so hopefully their eye will be better by tomorrow.

I’m doing a video on my Vlog about my poorly babies, check it out and please subscribe

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Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about

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Pregnancy, something women can do that men can’t, so people assume it’s OK to ask about and of course they mean no harm, but a lot of women are fighting a battle you know nothing about.

The heartbreaking truth is, there are so many battles, you can never be too careful when speaking to a women about having a baby, there are so many scenarios, anyone could be suffering silently and you know nothing about it.

The couple you ask “When will we be hearing the pitter patter of tiny feet?”

For all you know they may have trouble conceiving, they may have tried IVF, it may have failed.

They may have lost a baby, they may have lost several.

Or maybe they aren’t ready yet, they might not of even had that conversation, or maybe they have and have decided it isn’t their time yet. But still this is…

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Tips for the pregnant bride

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Most women dream about looking a million dollars on their big day, getting in great shape to fit in their perfect dress, well I’m not most  women, I was 28 weeks pregnant at my wedding!

So now I’ve been there and done it, I’m sharing some tips to make sure you enjoy your day and look after yourself at the same time.

Tip #1 – Flat shoes

I know, I know…heels elongate your legs, look much prettier and let’s face it they just make you feel better about yourself when you’re wearing them…unless you’re pregnant, then they are blister breeding, ankle swelling shackles of death. Plus if you’re anything like me, your balance is off in pregnancy so it’s best to be in flats. If you have your heart set on heels, just wear them down the aisle, trust me get some comfy shoes for the evening…you’ll thank me later!

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