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We’re the lucky ones

Watching Coronation Street tonight brought back dreadful memories and gut wrenching feelings of when I went into premature labour at 25 weeks and 5 days of pregnancy with Jack.

We’d had heartbreak already in our first two pregnancies, first with a Molar Pregnancy and then with a Miscarriage. Jack was our rainbow baby, our ray of sunshine, once I got past 12 weeks I breathed a sigh of relief, but more heartbreak was yet to come.

At 25+5 weeks I felt a trickle, not like the usual discharge you get in pregnancy, this felt different. I didn’t think much of it, I’d never been this far in a pregnancy before, it was my first successful pregnancy, so maybe this is what happens…I thought to my self. Then I stopped feeling him move as much and something within me just told me to go and get checked.

So I rang the Maternity Assessment Unit and arranged to go in, they gave me an icy glass of water and Jack was back to his wriggling ways, by that point it was very busy on the unit so I did feel like a time waster. I got a rather stressed and huffy midwife who told me she had to do a test because I said I’d felt a trickle but that I’d been “the fourth lady with leaky waters today” that it’d be nothing, just some discharge, so I didn’t even ask what the test entailed I just let her to the uncomfortable swab and started to get my belongings together, ready to go home.

The midwife returned with a very different expression on her face, she suddenly turned very pale and before she opened her mouth a consultant walked in and said “Okay, so what time did your waters go?”….What?

After all the grief we’d been through losing two babies, I never thought the feeling of your heart sinking could get any worse, I was wrong.

The next few days were a blur of needles, swabs and doctors…but what mattered, he wasn’t born. All I can remember is being sat with Paul, cuddling, praying that he stayed put. The fact is the health staff intervened, if they hadn’t Jack would not be here today.

With their support and monitoring, Jack stayed in my womb until 29+5 weeks and then was in NICU for 6 weeks after being born at 3.5lbs. Fast forward 3 years and he’s a happy, bubbly, clever little boy, it’s easy to forget the terrifying experience we went through in his pregnancy and after his birth, but watching what Michelle went through on Coronation Street brought back those feelings and memories.

We are so lucky, we were over the 24 week mark in my pregnancy and our baby boy survived. Kym Marsh went through exactly what her character did in Corrie, who better to act it than someone who has been through it? I don’t know how she found the strength but she’s a strong lady who has done justice for every woman who has gone into premature labour.

Watching her go through that just reminds me what could of been, I know the feeling of being told you are in premature labour, I know the feeling of knowing your child might die, but I am the most grateful and lucky person in the world to not know what it feels like to lose your child, for the hope to be gone.

The episode really highlighted a lot of issues with the way couples are treated in that situation. When I suffered both my Miscarriage and Molar Pregnancy I was put in a room of happy couples who were cooing over their scan pictures of healthy babies, during their ordeal on Corrie, Steve and Michelle had to listen to newborn babies crying, it’s heartbreaking that it is the case that couples aren’t given the privacy and proper setting to grieve and go through this heartbreaking experience and even if the health staff wanted to give that to them, the sad fact is there probably isn’t the facilities.

I never thought I’d feel lucky looking back on what we went through when Jack was born, it was heartbreaking and I wish we never had to go through it, but in reality it is a memory, a story we can tell that ends in success, our baby boy is here and he is healthy, a lot of people don’t have that, their’s ends with grief and that is why…we are the lucky ones.

 

 

 

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Day 8: 365 Day Activity Challenge

8th January 2017
We’re a day late doing story Sunday due to Nicole having a hospital trip, but here’s this weeks story, we read it and searched for bears in the garden, video to follow shortly
We’re Going on a Bear Hunt
Michael Rosen Helen Oxenbury
We’re going on a bear hunt.
We’re going to catch a big one.
What a beautiful day!
We’re not scared.

 

Uh-uh! Grass!
Long wavy grass.
We can’t go over it.
We can’t go under it.

 

Oh no!
We’ve got to go through it!

 

Swishy swashy!
Swishy swashy!
Swishy swashy!

 

We’re going on a bear hunt.
We’re going to catch a big one.
What a beautiful day!
We’re not scared.

Uh-uh! A river!
A deep cold river.
We can’t go over it.
We can’t go under it.

Oh no!
We’ve got to go through it!

 

Splash splosh!
Splash splosh!
Splash splosh!

 

We’re going on a bear hunt.
We’re going to catch a big one.
What a beautiful day!
We’re not scared.

Uh-uh! Mud!
Thick oozy mud.
We can’t go over it.
We can’t go under it.

Oh no!
We’ve got to go through it!

 

Squelch squerch!
Squelch squerch!
Squelch squerch!

 

We’re going on a bear hunt.
We’re going to catch a big one.
What a beautiful day!
We’re not scared.

Uh-uh! A forest!
A big dark forest.
We can’t go over it.
We can’t go under it.

Oh no!
We’ve got to go through it!

 

Stumble trip!
Stumble trip!
Stumble trip!

 

We’re going on a bear hunt.
We’re going to catch a big one.
What a beautiful day!
We’re not scared.

Uh-uh! A snowstorm!
A swirling whirling snowstorm.
We can’t go over it.
We can’t go under it.

Oh no!
We’ve got to go through it!

 

Hoooo woooo!
Hoooo woooo!
Hoooo woooo!

 

We’re going on a bear hunt.
We’re going to catch a big one.
What a beautiful day!
We’re not scared.

Uh-uh! A cave!
A narrow gloomy cave.
We can’t go over it.
We can’t go under it.

Oh no!
We’ve got to go through it!

 

Tiptoe!
Tiptoe!
Tiptoe!
WHAT’S THAT?

 

One shiny wet nose!
Two big furry ears!
Two big goggly eyes!
IT’S A BEAR!!!!

 

Quick! Back through the cave! Tiptoe! Tiptoe! Tiptoe!
Back through the snowstorm! Hoooo woooo! Hoooo woooo!
Back through the forest! Stumble trip! Stumble trip! Stumble trip!
Back through the mud! Squelch squerch! Squelch squerch!
Back through the river! Splash splosh! Splash splosh! Splash splosh!
Back through the grass! Swishy swashy! Swishy swashy!

 

Get to our front door.
Open the door.
Up the stairs.

 

Oh no!
We forgot to shut the door.
Back downstairs.

 

Shut the door.
Back upstairs.
Into the bedroom.

 

Into bed.
Under the covers.

 

We’re not going on a bear hunt again.
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Day 1: The 365 Day Activity Challenge

January 1st 2017

Day 1 of my 365 day activity challenge, it’s story time Sunday!

To kick start my 365 day activity challenge we’ve used our imagination and made up a story about a bunny. It’s a story my Nanny told my Mum and my Mum told to me and now I’m telling my babies.

Jack loves Christmas so much he was happy to hear this Christmas story about a little bunny called Jack, who loves to play but one day rips his trousers and gets very upset because he thinks Santa won’t bring him any presents, but his little bunny friends help him stitch his trousers and they all get lots of presents from Santa at the end of the story.

Jack loves stories using our imagination where he doesn’t necessarily have to look at pictures and turn the pages, I like to ask him what Jack rabbit looks like and what colour his clothes were, so Jack can make up the details of his story and use his imagination.

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Joosr: Book Summaries You Will Love: A Review

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Let’s face it with the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it is becoming increasingly difficult to fit the time in to read books, well Joosr has the answer.

I’ve had three children in three years, but am desperate to keep my brain active by reading and learning new skills and information. As you can imagine it’s impossible to fit the time in, even if I can try fit a chapter a night in, by the time I actually finish a book, I’ve forgotten most of it. So a summary I can access straight from my phone or tablet is perfect. One thing I really missed when I became a mum was reading, because the time is just not there, well now there is a solution.

It’s perfect for the entire family, my husband has a busy work schedule and sometimes doesn’t finish until late, so it’s perfect for him to fit in some reading, before work, on his break or when he gets home, he can fit in a quick twenty minutes.

It makes sense to me the company was created by a single mother with a career in publishing and business man, who has a demanding job and long commute, they both have very little time to read, so created Joosr where you can read the “gist” of a book in just 20 minutes.

Personally I have read more of the business, entrepreneurship and parenting books so far, but since they are only 20 minutes long, I have an account for a year, so it is achievable for me to read all of them. How great is that? I finally have my reading time back, it might not be the amount of time I had to read before I had children, but let’s face it I’m not going to have the time to read an entire book, so thank goodness for Joosr!

The books provided in Joosr are all full of new skills and learning, so in bite size portions you can expand your knowledge across a range of genres. Plus it’s an app so you can get it on any device, so whether you’re quietly grabbing 20 minutes when the kids are asleep, on the bus commuting or on your lunch break at work, Joosr has made it simple and easy to fit in some valuable reading time.

So there is every reason you should have Joosr for yourself, I mean no matter who you are or what your profession there’s a book for you! There’s even a section on careers, if you aren’t quite sure. There is also every reason you should buy Joosr for someone else, Christmas is literally around the corner with only a few days to go! This is the ultimate last-minute gift, forget nipping to the shop for a box of chocolates and yet another pair of slippers, why not provide them with the gift of never-ending reading? I mean 250 books?! Have you ever tried to read 250 books? Or for that matter wrap 250 book? Well you can deliver them all to your loved ones device for only £42.99! That’s for an entire year! Your reading needs and knowledge expanded for only £42.99, how great is that?

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The waste doesn’t end there, with around 1 billion Christmas cards making their way into the bin come Christmas day, along with 227,000 miles of gift wrap. Imagine what The Proclaimers would make of that?

Whether you want to treat yourself, or someone doesn’t know what to get you for Christmas or you are stuck for what to buy a loved one, give them the gift of never-ending reading. You can leave it right until the last-minute and you don’t have to wrap it, plus you know they’ll use it for the entire year! It’s a no-brainer really.

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5 Minute Fun!

Thinking of ideas to do with your little one that don’t take a lot of time or preparation?

Look no further!

5 Minute Fun are 5 minute activities that can be done any time, any place and in just 5 minutes!

We decided to make a picture out of leaves! Both of my boys were poorly so we wrapped up warm just to go out in the garden to get leaves and then did the rest of the activity indoors making the picture.

Here’s a video to show what we did:

Jack loved it, now he wants to do “his” 5 minutes everyday! Mikey likes to join in on certain ones too and I feel this is really helping his social skills. Plus Jack loves showing his baby sister his pictures, so the entire family is involved.

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My Cupcake Toppers: Make Your Images Edible – Review + 10% Discount!

Everybody loves cake!

No matter what you’re trying to say, there’s nothing that says it better than cake.

Whether it’s: Get Well Soon, Merry Christmas, Happy Birthday, Congratulations, I Miss You or even if you just want to let someone know you are thinking of them, cake is the best way to say it!

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Not only that they will print your image…whatever it is onto icing!

No longer are you restricted to finding a cake that’s “just right” for your loved one, now you can personalise with pictures, writing or anything you want printed onto icing!

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Own a company? Support a Charity? Get your company or charities logo printed onto a yummy cupcake topper!

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They come in a range of standard sizes but you can ask for a specific size, there is also a wide range of toppers you can choose from:

Seasonal, Special Occasions, TV and Film, Charity, Sports, Computer Games & Toys and a few other suggestions too, but don’t forget you can completely personalise your own as well.

What better gift than the gift of cake, with the festive season coming up you could cater to the entire family from Football toppers for Dad to Frozen toppers for little girls, they have them all!

The website is really easy to use!

I chose what toppers I wanted, uploaded the pictures and went through check out within a matter of a few minutes!

I chose a range of cakes to show some great ideas and how great photos and logos come out on the cakes.

I chose a large cake topper for my Niece’s Baby Shower, they had a template design on the website so I just typed in her name and the date of her baby shower and they created it for me! It came as a round template (as I’d chosen) but on a rectangle piece of icing, so I could either cut round for a circle cake (which I did) it could of gone straight onto a rectangular cake, so there are a couple of options.

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I also got 12 cupcake toppers, they could have all been the same or all different. I chose six images so got two of each.

As you can see my blog logo stands out great, I think this is such a great way for businesses of any type to put their logo out there! I know I’d remember seeing a companies logo more if it was on a cake than just a card!

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The photographs of my children are so clear and the kids loved it seeing their faces on the cakes! I thought it could be great for a Christening or a Birthday party!

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Of course I got some Christmas pictures too! There are some Christmas designs on the website to choose from or you could upload your own image, logo or picture that’s Christmassy.

Whether it’s for a gift, a party or even as part of the spread on Christmas day, these cake toppers make it extra special over the festive period!

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It’s OK to be “that” mum

I’ve been that mum, the one that the other mums snigger about because she doesn’t like to leave her baby, or that people sneer at because she doesn’t like other people holding him, or that others judge because she worries about literally everything.

They say she needs to have a break from her baby so she will have time to miss him, or she can’t be selfish and has to share her baby or even that in their day there wasn’t any of these precautions and they turned out OK.

I genuinely don’t think people realise they effect their words have on us. As if we don’t question ourselves enough already now we have people telling us, we’re too clingy, selfish or even becoming doctor’s overnight and diagnosing us with Post Natal Depression.

I’ve been like this with my children, when I have had Post Natal Depression and also when I haven’t, let me tell you something…even if she does have PND, taking her away from her baby will definitely NOT make it better, if it isn’t what she wants it WILL make it worse.

All of my babies have been born towards the later end of the year, so when you get visitors there tends to be a lot of winter virus going around. I don’t think people realise when they paint you as the psychotic OCD mum, that the reason you don’t want an ill person holding your new baby is because it might just seem like a cough to them, but to a baby it can be life threatening, it could mean ending up on a Children’s ward around older children with Bronchitis and sickness bugs.

Maybe the reason they don’t want you to hold their baby is because they just don’t want to let go of them, I never wanted to let go of Jack. I loved cuddling him, I knew it would be short lived, that in a few months he’d be starting to move and eventually he wouldn’t sit still for my cuddles. Surely it was me who needed the most cuddles, as his mother? We had the strongest bond after all. I carried him inside me.

That’s another point, we carried them inside us for three quarters of a year, why would we suddenly want to be separated from them? They are happiest with us, listening to our heart beat, the smell of their mummy and the sound of her voice.

For those who say in their day there wasn’t any of this to worry about, I’m sorry but you’re ignorant. Move with the times, there’s so much more to worry about now, because we have access to so much more information. Safe sleeping, anchoring furniture, stair gates, blind cords the list goes on and on, I’m of the opinion, if I can take the precaution, then why not do it? In your day it might have not been the thing to do to have bonding time without visitors, but I’m sure in your day a lot of women felt unable to speak out about how they feel, well this is my day and I want alone time with my baby and lots of it.

If there is one thing that really grates my cheese, it’s a group of people passing a baby around. Each to their own and if you’re happy for people to play pass the parcel with a tiny human, fair enough. But for me, it’s torture, watching your baby be lifted from person to person, knowing they aren’t settling anyway because they aren’t with you, but then to be disturbed every ten minutes, after just getting warm in someone’s arms, getting passed to another place…again! Yet people look at your like you’re insane or selfish for not sharing your baby.

I think most people make judgement because they literally don’t get it, they aren’t bad people, they genuinely think they are within their rights to have a sense of entitlement to your baby, but they don’t, this is YOUR baby and YOUR life. They will never have the bond you have with your baby and that is the most important bond, so don’t worry about how it’s affecting them, if that makes me selfish, then I’ll take that.

I’ve had people snigger and make comments about how I won’t pass my baby or like other people holding them, to me I don’t see why that’s something to laugh about. If someone takes your baby out of your arms without asking, for me it’s torture, that baby is a piece of me.

The best you can do is stand up for yourself and explain it to people, I have a lot of people in my life who get it and now don’t make any assumptions or take any liberties. But I also still have a lot who will never get it because they just aren’t willing to listen, they just label you as that mum.

Well I’m definitely that kind of mum…and proud of it.