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The Bad Mum Book

What does it take to be a bad mum? Apparently not a lot…

It takes lots to be a good mum, you have to be nurturing every aspect of your child’s perfectly balanced life and it seems just one of those factors slips below perfect we are tarred with the bad mummy brush.

Does it make me a bad mother that some days we don’t leave the house? We’ve done enough organised activities in the week to knacker them out that we just need a rest day. But if we are in all day, does it make me a bad mother that I will dress them in pyjamas? I mean, they are so much comfier! If we are just going to be lounging around and watching TV, why do they need their best chinos on? They don’t.

What about in the middle of the night? Have I failed as a mother because I put a nice cosy blanket over the wet patch on their bed, because it would mean waking them up and taking an extra 5 minutes before getting back into bed to give them a full sheet change…for the possibility of them wetting through again? If that is a crime, I’m afraid I’m a repeat-offender.

If we’re never meant to show we are upset or even angry in front of our child I’ve definitely failed. I mean Depression makes it pretty hard to hide from anyone especially your child that you are sad, will it damage them to see Mummy upset? Or am I just showing them that when you are upset it’s OK to show emotion and you can get through it.

They say that TV is the best babysitter, well I wouldn’t rely on it to change their bums and feed them but if I need 5 minutes to tidy upstairs the TV is a pretty good distraction, but of course it means I’m a lazy mother that sticks my kids in front of it zoned in all day, I might have the paw patrol theme tune stuck in my head 24/7 but it’s not because it’s on 24/7 it’s because these shows have special hypnotising powers…even for adults.

I yelled at my kid. Oooops does that make a bad mum? I also yell at my husband…does that make me a bad wife? Sometimes people yell at me, does that make me a victim? No, I don’t think it’s an ideal way to communicate, but let’s face it everyone loses their shit every now and again and it doesn’t make you a bad person or a bad parent, it makes you human.

My house is mess, all the time, even as I clean it. You know how some people would love a self cleaning home, I have a self messing one. As I finish tidying one room the kids are messing up another. I have messing floors, sticky hand print walls, piles of laundry, wet, dirty and clean (none put away and definitely not folded) but I also have happy kids. I might be a bad mum for not having a spotless home, but I know I’m good one for putting time with them first.

If you are trying to make your child happy and you care about their welfare you are NOT a bad mum. The world will sometimes make you feel like one, sometimes the world will think you’re a great mother and you’ll feel like a terrible one, it’s a constant battle to decide what is right and what is wrong, wondering how actions will affect their future.

Everyone is just fluking it in their own way.

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A break from blogging

So  I’ve had a bit of a break from blogging the last few months. I’ve really missed it and feel there are so many things I have missed recording about my little monkey’s.

To re-cap I have two little boys Jack (2.5 yrs) and Michael (1.5 yrs) and write about all the trials and tribulations of being their mummy. Since I stopped blogging things have changed quite a lot, I am now expect a baby GIRL!

I will talk about my pregnancy more in upcoming posts but I’m still in shock it is a girl!

I just wanted to write a quick post about why I haven’t been blogging for a while, there has been no major reason other than life just getting in the way.

So now I have my 2yr old, 1 yr old, 20 weeks Pregnancy and my wedding in 8 weeks! Safe to say I have plenty to write about…..

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Bye bye Breast Feeding!

I’ve done it! I’ve stopped!

I started writing this post 15 days ago! The boys have both been poorly so have only just got a chance to write about this milestone for Mikey!

This was a quote from what I wrote 15 days ago….

“At the moment I am extremely hormonal and trying not to cry! I’m really trying not to just stick him back on the boob!”

The actual date I stopped was the 25th May 2015 & today is the 11th June 2015!!!

So that’s 17 days booby free for Mikey, he has done amazingly well, the odd time he will attempt to nuzzle but he doesn’t get upset…which is amazing!!

My milk seemed to take about 8 days to dry up to the point I wasn’t in agony and could wear normal bra’s again, don’t get me wrong, I’m sure if he got on there at the moment he could start the flow again but lets not put it to the test!

So in all I did a massive 236 days Breast Feeding!! I’m feeling extremely proud.

My only advice to other mothers who are planning on stopping and finding it difficult or who are planning on Breast Feeding is…you will know when the time is right to stop!

Don’t get me wrong there are the odd people who Breast Feed their child until they are 10, but that is more than likely the mothers choice and not that she has been trying to stop for 9 of those years.

Me & Mikey had a few stop starts, I went through the should I, shouldn’t I phase, I went to York for a couple of days and it started to dry up but I wasn’t ready so continued and then all of a sudden one day I just decided to stop!

Trust me, when the time is right for both you and baby…you will know!

(P.S Cabbage Leaves! Speeds up the process and massively relieves engorgement)

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The “I Am A Yummy Mummy” Project

I want to promote happiness, healthiness and well-being amongst women!

It’s crazy how the one thing that makes us unique by gender is the fact we can have children, yet it’s one of the main things that makes us feel the least womanly and content with our minds & body!

So this is why I’m making the WE’RE ALL YUMMY MUMMY’S project!

During pregnancy our bodies grow in a way they never have before and we finally get used to being that way, then the baby comes and our bodies change again and it’s easy to get down about our post baby bodies, not only that but hormones go into over drive! A lot of people think that once the baby is out that the hormones go too, but really it’s just the start of a whole new emotional roller coaster. Plus celebrities stepping out with their summer ready bods two minutes after giving birth don’t help!

Having a baby is the biggest change you could ever make in your life and it’s easy to spiral down a road of Depression during what is meant to be one of the happiest times in your life.

If you want to support me in giving mummy’s the confidence to say I AM A YUMMY MUMMY then just do this:

#IAMAYUMMYMUMMY

Let’s get the hashtag #IAmAYummyMummy trending!

We need to support each other…come on ladies, let’s do it!