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PND | First Counselling Session | An Update

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about how my doctor had diagnosed me with Postnatal Depression.

I was referred for counselling and said I’d update you guys on my progress…so here it is:

I was given a call back and a telephone assessment, basically going over why I felt depressed. He also agreed I had “Perinatal Depression”, which actually covers more than just Postnatal Depression which means after birth, which is more accurate for me since my Depression first started when we lost our first baby.

We discussed my options and he thought 8 sessions of counselling would be a great starting point, at this stage the waiting list for counselling was 17 weeks! But because I fall into the “perinatal” category, I got moved up the waiting list so I was only 6 weeks away, but I actually had an appointment within 3 weeks, which was great.

I felt positive and happy to have taken the first step to help myself, which helped my mood to be lifted.

My first session nearly didn’t happen, the room was in a huge complex, hidden right in the middle around the other side of the building, so at first I went to the wrong reception. In my head this was a sign I shouldn’t go, I almost stormed off to go home, but I knew if I missed this session I’d be knocked off the list, so i fought my own mind’s negativity and although I was 5 minutes late, I found the room.

The counsellor was a lovely welcoming lady, I basically word vomited my whole life to her with all my anxieties and fears thrown in too, but she was great and didn’t make me feel silly for blurting it all out. She didn’t even need to say much, she just supported me in the decisions I was unsure about and basically told me that the way I am raising my children and living my life is OK and that I need to let go of the negative comments people make and just let them go over my head, she also thinks I’ve had a lot of trauma over the past five years of my life with losing two babies, Jack being really premature, my Dad passing away and a lot of other personal stresses that have caused me a lot of anxiety.

She thinks CBT will help me, once I’ve finished counselling. So I’m optimistic about that.

So my first counselling session went really well, I’m excited about my next one.

For those struggling with Depression who are thinking about starting counselling, I would say even after one session I feel more positive, it’s amazing the feeling that just making a forward step with supporting your own mental health can do.

There are so many options to help and support you if you feel depressed, you just need to take that step forward and the support is┬áthere, it isn’t a one size fits all and everyone’s story is different, but one thing that is true for everyone is that you should NEVER keep your feelings to yourself if you are feeling Depressed.

I’m keeping you guys updated to show how getting support for PND does work!

Here are some support links:

Samaritans

MIND

PANDAS

If you are in Lancashire like me this is who I get my counselling through:

Minds Matter

I will continue to keep you guys updated on my progress and if anyone wants to get in touch, share their success story or just to talk please comment or get in touch.

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In Charley’s Memory – A story that touched my heart!

As you scroll through your Facebook news feed you pass hundreds of stories a week, the ones that are liked and shared thousands of times, you don’t always get the chance to stop and read them, even though you know that is a story that means the world to someone and if that someone was you, you would want every man and their dog to care about your story, because really it isn’t a story…it’s your life! And if you had one of the most important people in your life to snatched away from you, you would want everyone in the world to care.

I noticed a picture of a young man this evening, I automatically assumed it would be a missing person, so I clicked on the photo to see if they had been found, because usually it will have comments saying “Thank you for sharing, they’ve been found safe and sound”. As I read the “Story” attached, my heart broke for the mother and family of the young man Charley in the photo, you see Charley died at the age of just 18, having suffered from several mental illnesses. My heart broke for several reasons, one for such a young man to have lost his life to such a preventable death had he been given the right support from the relevant authorities, another for being a mother and knowing the feeling of your child being upset or unwell and the fear of never seeing them again, I can’t begin imagine Charley’s mother’s pain.

She is now being incredibly strong and trying to share her son’s story to raise awareness of mental illness in young people and break the stigma. To read the full story and show you support here are the charity’s page links:

https://www.facebook.com/InCharleysMemory

https://twitter.com/icmcharity

Also please visit these charities’ website’s that can offer help to mental illness sufferers:

http://www.mind.org.uk/

http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/

http://www.rethink.org/

https://www.papyrus-uk.org/

http://www.sane.org.uk/