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New Years Resolutions

I have never been big on new years resolutions (mostly because everyone else I rarely stick to them) but since having kids there’s always more I want to be doing with and for them, so for 2017 I’m going to base my new years resolutions on them.

Considering this years I had another baby and got married it’s been a pretty hectic year, so my plan for 2017 is to chill out! No major organised events, I might arrange Nicole’s Naming Ceremony for later in the year but I will just see how that goes, it can always wait until 2018.

So I’d like to do more activities with the kids, drawing, painting, creating. We do a lot but I’d like to arrange at least a couple of times of the week when we sit down to do exactly that. I’d like to make a list of farms, zoos and educational yet fun places we can go.

We tend to sit down for teatime but not really for any other meal of the day, they tend to walk around with a piece of toast of a morning, but I’d like for them to sit down and eat more just basically to get them eating more, it’s not that they are even bad eaters, but I’d just like to have more meals sat at the table with actual face to face contact.

Limiting devices, I don’t allow them to spend long on the tablet/ipad/laptop but occasionally they will go on it, so I’d like to limit what they are using to a certain hour and app, just for the reason I don’t want them to get into bad habits of being on devices all the time, yet I know it is good for them to know how to use them.

I usually end up buying a diary in about April, when I decide to get my life in order, but I suppose January is a good place to start and I’d like to be one of those organised birthday rememberer’s but we will see how well that goes.

So in summary I guess my new years resolution is to have a fairly normal, yet fairly organised year…if that’s even possible. Basically no more babies or weddings!

But I have three kids way under school age, so organisation in my house means living in a fairly normal household and considering mine is as mad as a box of frogs, I’ll accept I have good intentions but not punish my self if it all goes A over T.

Happy New Year Everyone!

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Shovelling snow in a blizzard: Life with having three kids in three years

We hadn’t planned it this way, it felt like it took forever to finally have our first baby in our arms. Now our home is overrun by tiny dictators.

As they say the days are long, but the years are short. This is true, the days are really really long and so are the nights. You know how people tell you at different stages how their kids started “sleeping through”…yeah! Mine did that too, they love their sleep…Then you have to take off the nights where there will be teething, nightmares, sickness, illness, over-tiredness, hyperness or the fact they just don’t want to sleep. But when you have to be at an appointment for 9am guarantee they will want to lie in until lunchtime. Basically if you want to live in a world full of irony, have kids.

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Bribery…this will be your key to survival when you have relentless toddlers. Some people will say you shouldn’t bribe your kids, to them people I say spend a day in my house, you will soon turn into a bribing negotiator. Unless you give a child a good reason to do something why are they going to do it? Would you go to work if you didn’t get paid? So if I want my child to sit still while I dress him so I can get out of the house on time, I have no qualms about offering them a treat when they get to town if they just get their coat on! Or threatening to throw all of their trains in the bin if they don’t apologise for hitting their brother. I might be going about it the wrong way, but I haven’t had to threaten or bribe as much as they’ve got older because they know if they are good they will get rewarded and if they are naughty they will be punished…isn’t that just like grown up life? But you MUST follow through, if you show any sign of weakness and use empty threats your kids will jump on that opportunity to over rule you like tiny little terrorists.

Leaving the house is a military operation, especially when you need to be somewhere for a certain time…why is it I’m always given the 9am appointments? So my mode of transport is a double buggy called Zoom by Obaby. It’s not your standard double buggy, but I prefer it. Then I have Nicole in my Ama Wrap, it looks a little something like this…

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Nicole also has her own buggy a Redkite Push Me Fusion, for when I’m with my husband so we can push a buggy each.

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It’s when I’m by myself with the three kids I get heckled, some comments I don’t mind, like “Oh wow how do you cope?” because to me they are saying, you do cope…how do you do it? But it’s when people stop and gawk in horror as if I’m pushing around a cart of explosives and comment with “I bet they weren’t planned” or “I hope you’re going to stop now” and “You’ve got your hands full you know?!” the answers are actually they were all planned, I’m not ready to stop and I’ve got my hands and heart completely full of love, nappies and snot…I wouldn’t change a second of it.

Be ready to keep bobbing up for air in a sea full of nappies, that’s right, none are potty trained yet. I keep trying to introduce Jack to it and we’re getting there, but I’m a great believer of not forcing something like using the toilet, he’s got the rest of his life to be doing that. It can become unbearable when they all poop at the same time, but just be ready to take lots of trips to the outside bin or get a diaper genie, either way if you forget and put a stenching nappy in an indoor bin, you’ll soon realise…trust me.

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People think I’m crazy for having three kids in three years, what I think is crazy, is waiting a few years then doing it all over again. Don’t get me wrong there are benefits I’m sure for having an age gap, more one on one time with each child, a bit longer between the crazy newborn stages but for me, I haven’t ever got out of the “baby stage” I still haven’t! Nicole is three months so she is still very much a baby! I will be waiting or stopping now I haven’t decided, but literally because I have nowhere to put a fourth baby, the boys are in the buggy, Nicole is on my chest…there is nowhere for another one to go!

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The key of surviving being overrun by nappy wearing hooligans is keeping your cool, if you lose your shit they will lose theirs. The hard times will pass, the tantrums will finish and everything will always end in cuddles.

Life is hard when you have three kids in three years but I’m sure life would be hard having three kids in 10 years! They are kids, they are hard at all stages of life and to be honest…adults aren’t that easy either, are they? Everyone’s going to do it their own way and this is my way…I thrive on the mayhem.

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A break from blogging

So  I’ve had a bit of a break from blogging the last few months. I’ve really missed it and feel there are so many things I have missed recording about my little monkey’s.

To re-cap I have two little boys Jack (2.5 yrs) and Michael (1.5 yrs) and write about all the trials and tribulations of being their mummy. Since I stopped blogging things have changed quite a lot, I am now expect a baby GIRL!

I will talk about my pregnancy more in upcoming posts but I’m still in shock it is a girl!

I just wanted to write a quick post about why I haven’t been blogging for a while, there has been no major reason other than life just getting in the way.

So now I have my 2yr old, 1 yr old, 20 weeks Pregnancy and my wedding in 8 weeks! Safe to say I have plenty to write about…..

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To wake a sleeping baby? Dare we!

There are varying opinions on whether newborn babies should be put into a routine or demand fed.

Personally I demand feed my babies, I do whatever they need whenever they need it…does this make me a pushover?

I mean, come on! Can I really be a pushover? we’re talking about a newborn baby, a little person who needs us to do everything for them or let’s face it…they wouldn’t survive!

As my children are only 1 and almost 8 weeks I’m not sure how I will change my ‘laid back’ approach as they grow older.

But I can say…my 1 year old is demand fed, he doesn’t have set times to eat, he has a bath & sometimes a story before bed but never at a strict time, he sleeps in our room and we’ve never had to use a baby monitor as he naps downstairs until we take him up to bed with us, since my second son has been born he’s slept in our bed ( I was always too scared) he’s pretty big for his age so I feel confident he’s safe, but when I need a bit extra room at night I’ll put him in his cot and he doesn’t bat an eyelid.

As he doesn’t have a strict routine, we never really have a fight on our hands as he’ll sleep when he needs to and eat when he needs to.

Now, I’m a stay at home mother, so I realise I have the flexibility to be that bit more laid back than working mothers. So if in some circumstances we have to get our newborns into a routine, how do we do it?

The thought of waking a sleeping baby, terrifies me! I’ve heard some…interesting ways of waking them from gently lifting them from their bed and bouncing them gently to a cold (yes I said cold) wet flannel on their bare skin. Some ways just seem cruel, but that’s just my opinion.

There are all different reasons in our individual lives why we raise our children the way we do…

It’s quite a controversial subject, so let’s discuss it…comment with your opinions below 🙂

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What is the right age gap between babies?

Everyone has an opinion, usually each mummy has her own ideals of the age gaps she’d like between her babies and how many babies she’d like, unfortunately mother nature doesn’t always let it go to plan.

My original plan was to have a career as a nurse and start a family at age 30 after getting a mortgage, yet I am sat here 23 years old, in a rented house and mummy to two gorgeous boys who are 10 months apart and am a million times happier than I was back then.

I couldn’t wait to push my babies out and have them straight on my chest and naturally breastfeed, yet the reality is my first was born at 29+5 weeks and whisked straight off to NICU and I was left stunned while having 9 stitches. Breastfeeding wasn’t as easy as I thought as my baby was in an incubator I had to pump into bottle and he never developed a sucking reflex strong enough. Exhausted and weak I pumped breast milk into bottles for 12 weeks and then gave in and he was moved on to pre-term baby formula.

After such an ordeal and six weeks in NICU I thought I’d wait at least two years before having another one, little did I know even though I was breastfeeding and on the pill, when my son was 11 weeks old I fell pregnant again.

My second was then born at 35 weeks by c-section due to him being breach, he breast feeds but with a constant battle to get him to latch on, even now 7 weeks on.

Everyone I know thinks I’m mad for having two so close together, I love it and think it would be easier than having to adjust back to having a newborn as it wasn’t that long ago for me, but I can’t really know because I haven’t had it the other way round.

My point is even though we can’t plan to the day the age gaps between babies or their journey into the world, but if we could what would our ideals be?